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1, do you think will be derailed inherited? my boyfriend has an affair outside the parents, not divorce, his father now lives with the woman on the outside, the reality we are forced to live together with his mother. I do not like their approach does not seem to be my boyfriend care about this, you said it would affect his future? He is currently on my Daoye Ting, and can post it, after all, did not how long we were together, I hope Shun Shun sister to me according to your experience points Thank you!
derailment is not genetic, but a tire inner tube, nature. derailed his home father and mother were able to let you know, only that his parents are not depressed nature, are also not careful, of course, blame Cheap to tell you his mouth, he did not say this, how can you know. In fact, I would say that any person has the possibility of derailment, unless his / her genital problems, and spirit completely prime, otherwise Who hit who can not be tempted favorite emotion. but not derailed anyone, depending on the individual pursuit and self-binding. As for your boyfriend, the family effect is likely to make him more acceptable to the derailment and the future, you derailment of his own. If you insist that the derailment was inexcusable behavior, then talk to him now just as clearly, if he accepts the concept of your marriage, you have no reason why the current practice of his parents broke up with him.
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2, 27 unmarried women, married three years ago the work of understanding the reasons for men, men married at first to conceal the history of women in which one and fell in love with men. weekday SMS contact, meet several times a year. Now men and career Cheng, says it is prepared to take his wife and children around, as they originally separated the two. women are suffering, said male and female can not marry, the woman did not want to affect the future, I hope women will have a better future; and said to his wife and children received after close contact with the woman, but would be less. shameless women think men can be had to face the facts, in fact, women never expected to be with him. women decided to give up this feeling, start a normal life, and thank you man have given love. women have been physically and mentally exhausted, how to make their own transition hurdle it, people change so fast. because of their age pressure, in fact, this year, several women also blind, but could not find feeling , the other half looks like the future will not be the woman of love, the heart can not fit so much.
single encounter married, this result is inevitable. you hate him mercilessly, might as well hate ignorant. Now he couples to reunion, you asked for a break, this is normal development of the law, should accept my gift, not this sad. You have to think, in the past I have received from him that I wanted, because he can not give me more, so I want to substitutions, and another generous than he, give me a stable life of marriage and men. do not think they are being eliminated, all things are contradictory, the gains will lose, but there shall be any errors. < br> hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
3, her boyfriend and I are feeling good, but not very good, I always lack a sense of security. he prefers to play, now mainly operated by the family business, he wanted to come out alone, self-employed a shop, he wanted me to quit my job with him. My job although wages in general, no promotion opportunities, but it is stable. Now employment is not easy, I'm afraid that when poor management, very serious consequences.
not registered in the before marriage, do not need him with the joys and sorrows. cherish your work, it means that your future care.
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4, always pay attention to his chats with a lot of people that he likes ambiguous, with One woman looks like a very intimate relationship, mutual pity, or even say contact, I still hold on. shun sister, how do you think the spirit of derailment? how to keep the spirit of the body evolved into derailment derailment? I insinuated to him that I already knew what he was up?
not knock flanking hit him, kick him directly is the best policy, because there is derailed when the signs of love, who, no matter the moral or physical, are unreliable people, he will be intensified after marriage, instead of being mad at him, throwing better than abandon, to find another relatively reliable man.
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5, distress. betrayed the former boyfriend, I married a man than I am 20, and now I regret it, you can already have a year old son. Which is good husband, but I'm not forget ex-boyfriend, who had been confessor (love decade). I love the ex-boyfriend, forget him, but he is nothing this man can say, perhaps I am shameless in his Money can not choose between his son, and if no son, I might go into exile with him, but now have a son, the son of the material have everything I want. and I'm not happy with her husband, nor happiness, how can I to do it, is to take a leave?
you still go, his children go, so you can still have a baby all of his father, and you can then the desire and love together. tell the truth, you are a man with you are very unlucky, you leave him his happiness, the old man is more need love his woman.
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6, 39, a divorced woman with a 14 boys, a house and a car. a year ago by colleagues introduced to a male, 43, divorced with a 11-year-old girl. They are civil servants, women slightly better economic conditions, male position slightly higher. just know when the men are very enthusiastic, his daughter is also very sticky a female. Female ex-husband for divorce is derailed lead to lack of female insecurity, more sticky, but at people doing things this man is extremely strong, extremely not like to be tied, so occasional small conflicts. Shortly male promotion, treatment has improved, a substantial increase in workload, holidays often work overtime, past warm gradually disappeared, and occasionally also some perfunctory meeting. the promise of marriage again after the shift. woman asked, men always say busy, to be postponed, then simply no longer has any promise. contact, though they do not find other people involved, but that male no longer interested in the female no longer have interest in sex. very sorry to pay the original, now lost two out of human wealth, but do not quit, this feeling has become strained. period, the women talked about breaking up, men do not agree, but not how to retain, but said to find time to talk about, but he will never have the time. shun, as such a tasteless, how can I do?
Yes, even sex with before, is he cool things you cool, this is not your nothing with, of course, you can cheek with him to return to the original as he spent the money, Do not be afraid, since the spectrum did not get married, he had to eat you should spit it out. politely to return the money, After that decisive turn.
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7, female and male undergraduate and graduate students when, 27, will graduate this year married a year for three years in love. female high 165, looks good, outstanding male appearance, an outgoing, when studying many suitors, and occasionally other girls that little ambiguous, have no injuries overall, good for women. Recently men looking for work in the Architectural Design Institute, the wage level, the unit is busy, women not looking for work, feeling male of female negligence, as before thoughtful, not text messages and phone all day, more and more time to go home from work late. premarital women also have other suitors, but also used to be praised, and now feel very lost at home every day cooking, her husband came back, fast plus the nanny into the Housewife, and women have a sense of crisis. The day my husband smiling, and even gave her husband a married female colleague to eat partial meals, to lend her husband a number of expensive books, alas, now I have a peek at his cell phone and the impulse of the QQ, are you married to such a big change?
find is handsome price alert the enemy to pour in, so you vote for him was a mistake, but now already married, and can only bite the bullet and move forward red. Do not be too concerned about his movements and attitudes, not all men are eating grass nest side hobby, not all men wanted to abandon the Zaokang derailed. This 2 points can make you a man in the unit basically chastity. you want to expand their social circle rich, so that it can calm the panic should he not at home. as long as you have a friend who had entertainment, you will not worry about his every word and deed was. And even if Pakistan had a woman lick and lose him, You should also welcome is: money is the touchstone to see someone try to spend your man, try his own money than you strong? if he could not stand trial, such a man can not lead their lives with you, you also use He had a fear of being kidnapped? abducted early morning is good, we delay the less Shaohua.
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8, for nearly 7 years, 5 years of performance is very good, substantial prize money, of course. The first 6 years old baby, finished off a five-month maternity leave to work schedule, team leader in the distribution of prize money when I was 6 fold to accept. be the first 7 years, that is, when I was assigned last year, 7.5 fold, to other people also have a discount, So I paid my heart sick Moreover, other groups have not calculated in this way, polite euphemism to say to my comments: This is not fair. see also more head of no face, more angry surprise, the next I am also disturbed worry about regret and hate myself. wise Shun-shun, now how do?
things are done, it would readily accept the consequences of it, head If so difficult for you, you can also find reflected in the higher-ups. But This year, we must work hard and be careful not to handle the baskets and the people. In fact, there are views to express, not necessarily a bad thing, at least have to understand that the head: You are not any punches either, not by his casual Pinch.
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9, female 27, graduated 4 years has been working in a company, the company is not very formal, depends on the boss who ruled that impression. dismissed the previous month was the boss, the boss said the company has a girl crush on the boss, will be very loyal to his boss, the hostess call themselves entirely to the company, and the bosses do not stop this behavior, but a bit ambiguous. The girl does not like me because she was stronger than my ability to work. boss said, I do not understand the work ultimately comes down to relationships between men and women, he said, I usually dress and every three years can not arouse his interest, so me and the girl in contradiction, he would instinctively tend to the girl and fired me. He told me to learn Freud.
along sister, my undergraduate degree, have a strong ability to work, work better than the girl completely, I may dress more conservative, but also attention to the relationship between work and leadership. So this month has been to not understand that the right boss, do not work, mainly to see the ability to work? very confused also a shock, because the work has been learning more excellent, others not received such a negative, so I do the negative, I do not know how the future work. Comparison of hate that girl in front of the boss says bad things about me, hate the boss can not see my ability to work.
girl, you are lucky enough to escape prostitution claw your boss, not happy? you that the boss is a Small rogue wild ways, talk insane, man is not authentic, you give this man your work is, unfortunately, now he just fired you, then go find a job, find a female subordinate does not harass or insult the decent boss, you only more promising.
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10, A woman of 29, married with children, a subsidiary in charge of large companies, the couple basic harmony, because the couple have strong personality and often noisy, but counted live, but very few of .2 years ago, higher headquarters executives (40 married) When a dilemma, and the sparks A comfort, a ML, love to take care of each other (outsiders do not know). During the two sides have spent the truth, A subsidiary of women in the exercise of the next manager, was promoted to head men's president in power. A woman stumbled upon with a number of men and women of any ambiguity, President, ML, and found his wife and children than men outside (with his wife and asexual for years, but men want a strong, good effort ), while a concubine and daughter. A woman was injured very Wohuo. At present, A for I do not know women, but men have gone away, men are still phone text messages a day (men and several other women for that matter), once a month or two, see ML . A woman is uncomfortable, if separated, having left, has put the truth, and so far, men are still very obedient in other ways, work-life care, adding the event to help resolve the difficulties, there is gratitude and psychological factors in women, to accompany him to the old, move the true feelings of psychological dependence; if not minutes, A Girl and self-interference, check the whereabouts of his phone, one angry, aggrieved and no place to send. Please pointing along sister, how should I do? it must be separated , if not separate, how do I want to open mind, tolerance to him, to accompany him to the old do?
stealing is stealing, there are people evacuated to steal the law? know his identity to only their job, just share of the benefits of other, less misses are less refined. because you re thinking about re-refined, you can never expect to steal him as your husband. That being so, what is also tinkering live.
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12, love, understanding of 5 years broke up 16 years .4, May After he was introduced to a female friend. In fact, we ever broke up in April when they met, and then went to bed less than .5 at the end of January, he came back to me that after this episode I know who is his favorite , hoping to compound. I have not put down agreed. He said that woman back with .6 months make it clear some things out of his house, and I know he and that woman has always been good. I'm sad, I know man so many years, that so many hypocrites. He said that people like me, his mother may not like me. he along with that woman, his mother could do business with her. I was prepared and institutions, and that women to do foreign trade, more money than I do. I feel that I have mistaken, he has been talking about trying to persuade his mother, can the result was disappointing. morning and called in the past, turned out to be that woman on the phone. I am not convinced more disappointing is that man.
into, call it, even if you know 160 years, he was still the faithless faithless, change of heart this is the number of years do not look at communication . you should be happy: so philistine, he and his mother finally got rid of by you.
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13, you say The reason we do not derailed, not because we do not want to derail, but we still love the feelings of extramarital sex extramarital affairs are excluded, this exclusion is the power of traditional moral values, rather than instinct do not want to derail. Marriage can be tied just the body, the mind can not. It depends on each of you own, is something more powerful call center, or a strong moral sense of those reasons.
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14, if they basically confirmed to be together, living together before marriage how? My boyfriend and I have been living together a year, feeling pretty good, many people may say that living together before marriage is not good, but one thing I felt that I could. premarital cohabitation, married life is ahead of time, a lot of life in trivial little things emerge one by one, We are working hard to communicate and resolve, so that more and more harmonious, after the marriage of a little more confidence. If even the days of cohabitation are not working, then it can end.'m glad we are a good place to go, and we were not inconsistent in principle, or lack of coordination, can communicate with each other, help each other to solve the problem. However, I do not understand, because of living together, who may appear more than cooking and laundry and other more minor who , or who would do less housework to do ah such a mess, and we are working hard to solve, and occasionally life and life will be so stingy. you how to solve this? how to be more coordination point? Moreover, these problems before marriage, in the end is good thing or a bad thing?
cohabitation on the premise that the woman not afraid of being abandoned, the men are not afraid of the future send a punitive expedition of your hymen. cohabiting good indeed also as you said, you can run ahead of time, the wrong people do not need to create one for him history of the marriage. but living together is to live together, married, some right and wrong, living together can not avoid, if both sides can treat each other, it is easy to harmonious cohabitation. and marriage, like life, requires patience, living together also need patience and tolerance, in advance of tolerance, as long as enough sleep and entered in the marriage can still insist, that is a good thing, on the contrary, marriage suddenly turned hostile, there is no point in living together before marriage.
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15, LG existing debt, but he an idealist, and believe that money is the way to his house every night gave him to the end of the year I counted how much money. Sometimes I test him: Do you think I work very hard now, so next year you make money I will not go to work. A said this his face to change, says that people should have their own work, that he must be able to feed themselves. reason I know his heart in particular twist, he now sometimes I appreciate the hard work that I tired. It seems so since he did not really make any money I spend some part, I was very uneven. Shun Shun sister, you said I was not silly? how do you see what he had?
you a man is a typical The only pain is not common with the main Gan, and now he needs you trust him to encourage him to accompany him, will he once fortune, must be their own money to happy to go hug. But you do not balance, this dream of getting rich every day people, usually the mothers, you'd always get him to be careful when you use the meal ticket.
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16, my master, height 166, looks good, the top three hospitals in the work, busy with work, no weekends . boyfriend is a key secondary technical administrative staff, 168 undergraduate, and looks in general. They work unit distance, he would come to my side of the weekend, love to me during the good years after the marriage began to discuss matters relating to begin decorating the house, 6 month of renovation, from June to me cold, call less than before, and the talk time is short, conversations are basically decorated, very little to say sweet. After the summer break in July he rarely came to see me, then I leave that look for him, he found reason to refuse my past, I asked if there feelings, he then mentioned breaking up, attitude is very firm very thorough. on the ground that I feel bad for some time, because the thought me mean. I earn 7000 His 3000 salary, family situation is not good, are struggling on their own, they raised a common decoration of marriage, I said, I said if you need money, the period also asked if he could have money, you do not I send him some money In the past, he said there are thousands and not to. Q along sister, he is great pressure because of money advice to me? mention broke up I sent him a text message had explained that he did not return, has not contacted me, I still need to win?
do not fight, he should have a new love.
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17, you are really amazing, I'm more and more trust. The day before yesterday just to see your reply, that he may not really love me, let me tonight that he had brought a woman to the place where we often date. It seems out of character sub-Wan Yan successful woman became his killer. Now the problem is that he is my boss, I work under him for ten years, has been very appreciated by him. He also thinks highly of me. He lost his wife I am unmarried, with his good friend is also a matter of this year, he thought I was serious, not fun of me, after all, the ability to work okay I, the company has no competition, so when we say break, I was put in this situation seriously. Though you have been reminding my colleagues do not engage in love, but I was too confident, not The result is that thought now.
company treated well, I was reluctant to leave but stay and do not know how to face him and feared he would not deliberately make things difficult for me. If you go out to work, although looking for it, but certainly not a good treatment now, and I also for the room. shun give me advice, and I how to get along with him, only to keep the job without losing both self-esteem, or simply left the company over a period of hard time being? But if this greater my loss.
Why should resign, what he just did not want to marry you, and not want to use you. As an employee, you still have the presence necessary. Do not talk to him falling out, put I do not know what to do, nothing happened and continue humbly to his work, such as the mortgage has finished, or have a better slot, we jump anyway. Now you are a vacuum when he strike.
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18, divorced six years, divorce, nothing has been drifting. Last year, he told me to take the child (when she became ill, he said, with a good real mother), I took a year and a half, he was renting to We ladies live. mother and daughter together, although some constraints, but also happy that this year her daughter to secondary school, and he treated her back, which means do not rent a room. In fact, he had me take my daughter is a premeditated, He was like, and second child of divorce, no one to help him take care of her daughter, and I later found out, daughter also forget, did not care about him. Later he learned that there has been a primary three, I do not know how he could, bringing her back to. I do not know him to consider our daughter's feelings? that points to points! his conditions are good, his daughter can not stand the pain to go back, but so frustrating how much of the psychological impact of her daughter? now she was picked up during the holidays, rent empty too soon expire, I was not the taste. so many years a person, nothing, that there are a small store maintenance, do not do good business in recent weeks, and now a three-no staff, how to do later ? residence? work? for a quick forty women will have what results?
child picked up after the household chores you less a person did not tie him no trouble, went to live do it, the first stabilized livelihoods, economic development things think about the future. daughter grow up fast, whether you're a few days with her, she told you the future parents will give you a pension. now took good care of yourself, and then work to find a living will can be, anyway, you have nothing, not even the pressure, what can worry about the.
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19, I divorced, and looks not ugly, income can still have a car to a woman three years to bring their own. know What a man reading a PhD in psychology (later found out his profession, he also revised the law), several years younger than me. first meeting after the divorce because very few children Qindie visit, and male siblings have agreed to treat each other so that her daughter more contact with the opposite sex in order to facilitate growth, he had it all I can to help. However, after meeting him on the old contact, and express their love for children is also good, and gradually with him better. before her husband was not alive, has been widow, Dr. activities especially good, people mortals Sugar Lee (ha ha, sex class a), very much. along with the cooking when the kids and so on, still more harmonious. that he is poor no money, care about too, do not care about gradually, and and put into a relationship. that he had ex-girlfriend, said feelings of deep, a mistake left him, before he was hurt, may not know me when they come out. He and I talked about getting married to have children, I say to be postponed. then he went behind my ex-girlfriend, but also for the table would like to do something very extreme had not been able to restore, was I found that they really end after.
He repeatedly asked me, I had want to break up, but the heart has to accept defeat, did not happen I have prepared in advance to accept all his, and also preparing to get married after a year or two at the matter even after the contacts already do not trust my heart, always wanted to break up these two days, but sometimes will miss his sex, but also when dealing with joy. of very happy, communication is very smooth, like he actually does not love me, maybe just curious about my life (I am self-reliant enough to live comfortably). He said I had to work with . This relationship is not should not be continued? because I think many do not want to continue to pay, fear of the back injury. and even enjoyed sex, I would think he actually does not love me. the old think, of the will problems, and the back is not up gradually also enjoy it?
he may have a lack of the husband, because men too obvious utilitarian, are subject to change sides. But he was not a very good partner to do? You Divorce He married and had a day to day.
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20, 21 men and 25 women, with mutual understanding of three months, I feel like men and women, for women Fortunately, women also good impression of him, but no calls feeling. groom in rural areas, the economic situation is not very good, no room. Women have room in the county, the economy better than the groom, who looks good, but work is not a good man. men and women high school degree. I do not know why the female and male in always with no sense of security, is not it a little female inferiority. woman friend said that women too poor groom, so no sense of security, women feel like not. now only two to impress in March, with very silent, However, the female is very affectionate man, not ML. Women do not speak, men seldom say it feels more men than women said that a long time women did not want to say. men not active before, the men and women want to get married, I do not know He is not to get married and get married. is not the woman promised to be his girlfriend too early, and he do not care? say there is lots to talk together in love, is not a split signal? do not know if they work together or give up?
the cultural differences that you impress the situation now. points regardless, do not have to deliberately think about it, go with the flow, if more and more impress, it would automatically give up Well, now first, and so, to see that not possible to heat up.
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21, sister Hello, consult, and now is really unable to go. that nothing makes sense, for fear that one day he could not carry out. from the business last year, all me, he in the field, very cold, but asked business, home and children. now do not back his side, came back to go forward is not what happened, do not speak out. He is my six , education than I am, I was very exclusive, see the trouble he was not, I think he was all, and my heart cool, the total can not forget him unkind. He said a word, how for me, I will you how that I was destined to be the second marriage. He was anxious to, and others, that time I send text messages to call him, he seems bored, and said nothing to the old text messages sent Han. He never called me, he may not think of the children in my belly is his, and always give me that so and so's wife to be concerned about the people, he said that those who either do not have children, or do nothing is a housewife. Since I do not how to give him after the phone calls, text messages are not issued on November 05 his daughter was born, share of pain I will never forget, in the hospital for 3 days to nights, I suddenly high fever of 39 degrees and more, he has been lying there without them, To this end my mother a bit unhappy, and he and my mother had a falling out, dressed to go, and said, go back, I brought my own children for some time, when he returned to work in Changchun, low wages, he came back to me and the children every day is very bad attitude, never buy things for children, vegetables are vegetables, and always zucchini.
He gas to see my mom do not give children, gas I do not go out to work. On one occasion he said: I've never bought clothes, he said, . a child when I go out to work a half years old,UGG shoes, my mother look at children, the elderly in poor health. last year my own business, a pharmaceutical factory in his field work, I was also doing drugs business. just started to design packaging, some of the problems to call him, he actually said, work over there to die, come back, all the workers in the factory doing the work. and he knows it is nothing to do off-season, but he will always find something to do for himself, but these things never end result.
Canton, always make life difficult for my mind, hate such a man, do not want to look at him, and he did not want to stay for a minute! there are times he said, stay. nice to me. want to leave, I do not know how to take that step, but I do not know what will happen later on in life! hope you can give me some advice, is really unable to go, do not know how life go on.
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